Ever have a painful memory from the past that makes you cringe when you remember it?
I get those all the time and I’m reading a book right now about parenting (How We Love Our Kids) and a large part of parenting is fixing past hurts and showing compassion for those hurts says the authors. And based on my experience thus far this seems to be true.
The way I’ve come to embrace those old memories I wish I didn’t have is:
- Whenever the painful memory interrupts my day I try to stay with the memory or if I can’t in the moment, make to note to revisit it when I’m done doing whatever I’m doing. Then…
- Do the best I can to embrace it while telling myself yes I was there. that happened. that was painful
The painful memories doesn’t go away overnight, but as they continue to come up and I continue to embrace them in this way, and recognize that it was what happened, they lesson, and more energy becomes available.
